You have long been friends with someone. If they do something that you don’t like, should you still be friends with them?
(The Explanation type, generally one side of the issue is discussed)
From down of civilization up to nowadays, human beings' communication have been increasing, from a basic and primary relationship as first type to friendship as an important and optional one. Many types of communication like with our colleagues are unavoidable, and we are less able to whether change it or stop. In contrast, we are free in our relationship with our friends; I mean we can choose our friends by own selves without others' hand, we are able to make some change our friendship how we like, and even we can change our friend-group. There are various dos and don’ts list among different friends due to friendship's optional nature. One of the most controversial questions among people is that whether or not they must keep their relationship with their friends if their friends do something or show some behaviors that they don’t like it. Even though, quite a few individuals are of the opinion that they shouldn’t continue their friendship in such a situation, but, I, personally subscribe to this idea that not only we must keep our relationships, but also we should try to make them stronger. In my points of view, such an occurrence in friendships are tied into essence of friendship, and more important thing, this situation help people to improve their personalities.
In first place, psychologically speaking, human beings cannot get rid of mistakes towards others because of their mental problems, their shortage knowledge, their misunderstanding of situations, effect of cognitive bias in the commentary of one another's request, and so forth. By this in mind, we can say with utmost confidence that we wouldn’t have long-term friendship only if we be flexible enough towards our friends' behaviors. If we disconnect from our friends since they do something we don’t like, after a while we would see ourselves alone in which we will become mentally sick; we will get depression, we will not have a sense of community and so on. This approach is a prevalent one among people which I, as a one, see a lot in my surroundings. For instance, my brother has an idealistic definition for friendship. In his perspective, friends have to always know what kind of behaviors choose against each other. They must learn all emotional and demands of their friends, so accordingly they cannot make any mistake or things that others don’t like. Such an expectation make him a solitary person because he has not met such a friend, and he lost his best friends since he wasn’t permeable at all.
Secondly, all human beings are imperfect, and it is obvious to most people eyes, so because of that they want to make comfortable relationships to step into the path of becoming perfect. We need a safe relationship with others to show what we really are to change our personality and adopt positive characteristics. Friendship is beyond the price relationship to do so, but only if we have some friends with high level of receptivity, kindness, to name but a few. If we cut off our relationship just because our friends' mistakes or bad behaviors in our viewpoint, we would get a priceless chance from our friends to correct their characters, and following that we would also lose our great chance to do so. It is not to mention that sometimes we interpret wrongly our upsets, and link it with another one's behavior, but if we think deeply we will find its root in ourselves. This awareness gives us a positive approach in our friendship by which we are able to increase our tolerance in our relationship to improve our personalities. For example, roughly two years ago, I was repeatedly getting upset from one of my best friend's behavior. There were many times in those days that I want to disconnect with her, but fortunately I didn’t do. As time went, I understood something was running in my mind in specific communication no matter who was against me, how he or she talked with me and so forth. It has been a turning point in my life because I realized that I had a bad experience in my childhood which was hidden in my mind. Every behavior whether good one or bad one that gave a little light to that experience made me anxious and disturbed. I set week times to see my doctor in order to talk about it, and finally I solved my mental problem because of that. I think if whether I had not been flexible those days with my friends or my friends had not tolerated me, I would not have been aware of my problem.
In summary, by taking all of these into account, I think it is essential for everyone to keep their friendship even if their friends do something they don’t like. Such a manner not only bring people a good chance to have long-time friendship, but also give them a priceless relationship in which they can find their subconscious behavior, mental problem, and even a solution for them.
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Grammar and spelling errors:
Line 2, column 49, Rule ID: POSSESIVE_APOSTROPHE[1]
Message: Possible typo: apostrophe is missing. Did you mean 'beings'' or 'being's'?
Suggestion: beings'; being's
...n of civilization up to nowadays, human beings communication have been increasing, fro...
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Line 2, column 709, Rule ID: WHETHER[7]
Message: Perhaps you can shorten this phrase to just 'whether'. It is correct though if you mean 'regardless of whether'.
Suggestion: whether
...oversial questions among people is that whether or not they must keep their relationship with ...
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Line 5, column 390, Rule ID: WHITESPACE_RULE
Message: Possible typo: you repeated a whitespace
Suggestion:
... problem, and even a solution for them.
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Transition Words or Phrases used:
accordingly, also, but, finally, first, if, really, second, secondly, so, while, for example, for instance, i mean, i think, in contrast, in summary, kind of
Attributes: Values AverageValues Percentages(Values/AverageValues)% => Comments
Performance on Part of Speech:
To be verbs : 26.0 15.1003584229 172% => OK
Auxiliary verbs: 19.0 9.8082437276 194% => OK
Conjunction : 32.0 13.8261648746 231% => Less conjunction wanted
Relative clauses : 20.0 11.0286738351 181% => OK
Pronoun: 146.0 43.0788530466 339% => Less pronouns wanted
Preposition: 116.0 52.1666666667 222% => Less preposition wanted.
Nominalization: 17.0 8.0752688172 211% => Less nominalizations (nouns with a suffix like: tion ment ence ance) wanted.
Performance on vocabulary words:
No of characters: 4011.0 1977.66487455 203% => Less number of characters wanted.
No of words: 836.0 407.700716846 205% => Less content wanted.
Chars per words: 4.79784688995 4.8611393121 99% => OK
Fourth root words length: 5.37714279052 4.48103885553 120% => OK
Word Length SD: 2.94256695642 2.67179642975 110% => OK
Unique words: 361.0 212.727598566 170% => OK
Unique words percentage: 0.431818181818 0.524837075471 82% => More unique words wanted or less content wanted.
syllable_count: 1232.1 618.680645161 199% => OK
avg_syllables_per_word: 1.5 1.51630824373 99% => OK
A sentence (or a clause, phrase) starts by:
Pronoun: 23.0 9.59856630824 240% => Less pronouns wanted as sentence beginning.
Article: 0.0 3.08781362007 0% => OK
Subordination: 6.0 3.51792114695 171% => OK
Conjunction: 15.0 1.86738351254 803% => Less conjunction wanted as sentence beginning.
Preposition: 11.0 4.94265232975 223% => Less preposition wanted as sentence beginnings.
Performance on sentences:
How many sentences: 30.0 20.6003584229 146% => OK
Sentence length: 27.0 20.1344086022 134% => The Avg. Sentence Length is relatively long.
Sentence length SD: 52.6115851205 48.9658058833 107% => OK
Chars per sentence: 133.7 100.406767564 133% => OK
Words per sentence: 27.8666666667 20.6045352989 135% => OK
Discourse Markers: 5.23333333333 5.45110844103 96% => OK
Paragraphs: 4.0 4.53405017921 88% => OK
Language errors: 3.0 5.5376344086 54% => OK
Sentences with positive sentiment : 22.0 11.8709677419 185% => OK
Sentences with negative sentiment : 7.0 3.85842293907 181% => OK
Sentences with neutral sentiment: 1.0 4.88709677419 20% => More facts, knowledge or examples wanted.
What are sentences with positive/Negative/neutral sentiment?
Coherence and Cohesion:
Essay topic to essay body coherence: 0.214361908303 0.236089414692 91% => OK
Sentence topic coherence: 0.0729006255171 0.076458572812 95% => OK
Sentence topic coherence SD: 0.0525317683009 0.0737576698707 71% => OK
Paragraph topic coherence: 0.164175401644 0.150856017488 109% => OK
Paragraph topic coherence SD: 0.0202501508244 0.0645574589148 31% => Paragraphs are similar to each other. Some content may get duplicated or it is not exactly right on the topic.
Essay readability:
automated_readability_index: 15.1 11.7677419355 128% => OK
flesch_reading_ease: 52.53 58.1214874552 90% => OK
smog_index: 8.8 6.10430107527 144% => OK
flesch_kincaid_grade: 12.6 10.1575268817 124% => OK
coleman_liau_index: 10.86 10.9000537634 100% => OK
dale_chall_readability_score: 7.62 8.01818996416 95% => OK
difficult_words: 140.0 86.8835125448 161% => OK
linsear_write_formula: 14.0 10.002688172 140% => OK
gunning_fog: 12.8 10.0537634409 127% => OK
text_standard: 13.0 10.247311828 127% => OK
What are above readability scores?
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Write the essay in 30 minutes.
Better to have 5 paragraphs with 3 arguments. And try always support/against one side but compare two sides, like this:
para 1: introduction
para 2: reason 1. address both of the views presented for reason 1
para 3: reason 2. address both of the views presented for reason 2
para 4: reason 3. address both of the views presented for reason 3
para 5: conclusion.
So how to find out those reasons. There is a formula:
reasons == advantages or
reasons == disadvantages
for example, we can always apply 'save time', 'save/make money', 'find a job', 'make friends', 'get more information' as reasons to all essay/speaking topics.
or we can apply 'waste time', 'waste money', 'no job', 'make bad friends', 'get bad information' as reasons to all essay/speaking topics.
Rates: 73.3333333333 out of 100
Scores by essay e-grader: 22.0 Out of 30
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