Loyalty is the most important quality in choosing a friend

There is no short of opinions on the most important quality of Friendship. It is a matter of perspective. For each and every person a relationship is different. How they see any relationship decides what do they want or what do they expect in the relationship. My opinion can be discrete from yours and the best part? We are both not wrong about it. I believe, Loyalty - even though a crucial factor in any kind of affinity, is not the most important quality. I believe- Truthfulness and Honesty are the qualities that make a strong base for relationships. Be that relationship is friendship, love, or parental. I will explain the reasons for holding this opinion in the subsequent paragraph:
First, Anything that is forced and not inherent does not last for a very long time. If being a friend of someone makes you more conscious about loyalty, then it is just an added pressure. Friendship, for me, is an state where you are not judged based on your actions. A space where you are free to be open about how and what you feel. With freedom comes the Honesty. I am not judged, then I will be truthful to my core. and if I dig in my life, I can see Honesty has always been the key of my relationships. I consider, my mother is my best friend. She never judges me and always gives the freedom to be honest to my self. I am not afraid to share anything about my life or give my honest opinion because of this freedom. She loves experimenting with food. When she prepares something new, she asks me to taste it and judge it. If I am so adamant on being loyal, I am not sure if I will share my honest opinion on that dish with her. The truthfulness is taking the front seat here.
Second, In a friendship, two individuals are involved. They learn from each other. They teach each other. For the sake of being loyal, if the other person is not making me realize what am I doing wrong then where is the growth in the relationship? My mother is unabashedly honest about my decisions and my actions. She sometimes does not take my side. She many a times opposes my decisions. Off cause, I feel betrayed at times. But, once the heat of the moment dissipates, I understand her view. It gives me another perspective of the situation. This has been a major reason why I always try to share my things with her and she is still my best friend.
I always believe that loyalty comes implicitly. You can not force it on someone. Forcing someone to show that "they are loyal" will only make them feel burdened in the friendship. When a person is free to share his/her side, free to call you out on your mistakes without the fear of being labeled as disloyal, then this honesty and truth will build an implicit loyalty. This loyalty will be invisible and stronger. So, in my opinion Honesty and Truthfulness is more important qualities than Loyalty.

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Average: 7 (1 vote)
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Grammar and spelling errors:
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Suggestion: a
... added pressure. Friendship, for me, is an state where you are not judged based on...
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...ed, then I will be truthful to my core. and if I dig in my life, I can see Honesty ...
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Message: Don't use indefinite articles with plural words. Did you mean 'a time' or simply 'times'?
Suggestion: a time; times
...metimes does not take my side. She many a times opposes my decisions. Off cause, I feel...
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Transition Words or Phrases used:
but, first, if, second, so, still, then, i feel, kind of, in my opinion

Attributes: Values AverageValues Percentages(Values/AverageValues)% => Comments

Performance on Part of Speech:
To be verbs : 34.0 15.1003584229 225% => Less to be verbs wanted.
Auxiliary verbs: 9.0 9.8082437276 92% => OK
Conjunction : 16.0 13.8261648746 116% => OK
Relative clauses : 11.0 11.0286738351 100% => OK
Pronoun: 87.0 43.0788530466 202% => Less pronouns wanted
Preposition: 50.0 52.1666666667 96% => OK
Nominalization: 1.0 8.0752688172 12% => More nominalizations (nouns with a suffix like: tion ment ence ance) wanted.

Performance on vocabulary words:
No of characters: 2330.0 1977.66487455 118% => OK
No of words: 518.0 407.700716846 127% => OK
Chars per words: 4.49806949807 4.8611393121 93% => OK
Fourth root words length: 4.77070365392 4.48103885553 106% => OK
Word Length SD: 2.71681643035 2.67179642975 102% => OK
Unique words: 240.0 212.727598566 113% => OK
Unique words percentage: 0.46332046332 0.524837075471 88% => More unique words wanted or less content wanted.
syllable_count: 724.5 618.680645161 117% => OK
avg_syllables_per_word: 1.4 1.51630824373 92% => OK

A sentence (or a clause, phrase) starts by:
Pronoun: 28.0 9.59856630824 292% => Less pronouns wanted as sentence beginning.
Article: 2.0 3.08781362007 65% => OK
Subordination: 5.0 3.51792114695 142% => OK
Conjunction: 2.0 1.86738351254 107% => OK
Preposition: 4.0 4.94265232975 81% => OK

Performance on sentences:
How many sentences: 40.0 20.6003584229 194% => OK
Sentence length: 12.0 20.1344086022 60% => The Avg. Sentence Length is relatively short.
Sentence length SD: 37.8473166156 48.9658058833 77% => OK
Chars per sentence: 58.25 100.406767564 58% => More chars_per_sentence wanted.
Words per sentence: 12.95 20.6045352989 63% => OK
Discourse Markers: 1.775 5.45110844103 33% => More transition words/phrases wanted.
Paragraphs: 4.0 4.53405017921 88% => OK
Language errors: 3.0 5.5376344086 54% => OK
Sentences with positive sentiment : 28.0 11.8709677419 236% => Less positive sentences wanted.
Sentences with negative sentiment : 3.0 3.85842293907 78% => OK
Sentences with neutral sentiment: 9.0 4.88709677419 184% => OK
What are sentences with positive/Negative/neutral sentiment?

Coherence and Cohesion:
Essay topic to essay body coherence: 0.102075018235 0.236089414692 43% => OK
Sentence topic coherence: 0.0282548619906 0.076458572812 37% => Sentence topic similarity is low.
Sentence topic coherence SD: 0.0648447552759 0.0737576698707 88% => OK
Paragraph topic coherence: 0.0761938557938 0.150856017488 51% => OK
Paragraph topic coherence SD: 0.0595118277829 0.0645574589148 92% => OK

Essay readability:
automated_readability_index: 6.2 11.7677419355 53% => Automated_readability_index is low.
flesch_reading_ease: 76.22 58.1214874552 131% => OK
smog_index: 3.1 6.10430107527 51% => Smog_index is low.
flesch_kincaid_grade: 5.6 10.1575268817 55% => Flesch kincaid grade is low.
coleman_liau_index: 7.93 10.9000537634 73% => OK
dale_chall_readability_score: 6.85 8.01818996416 85% => OK
difficult_words: 86.0 86.8835125448 99% => OK
linsear_write_formula: 5.0 10.002688172 50% => Linsear_write_formula is low.
gunning_fog: 6.8 10.0537634409 68% => OK
text_standard: 7.0 10.247311828 68% => The average readability is low. Need to imporve the language.
What are above readability scores?

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Better to have 5 paragraphs with 3 arguments. And try always support/against one side but compare two sides, like this:

para 1: introduction
para 2: reason 1. address both of the views presented for reason 1
para 3: reason 2. address both of the views presented for reason 2
para 4: reason 3. address both of the views presented for reason 3
para 5: conclusion.

So how to find out those reasons. There is a formula:

reasons == advantages or

reasons == disadvantages

for example, we can always apply 'save time', 'save/make money', 'find a job', 'make friends', 'get more information' as reasons to all essay/speaking topics.

or we can apply 'waste time', 'waste money', 'no job', 'make bad friends', 'get bad information' as reasons to all essay/speaking topics.


Rates: 70.0 out of 100
Scores by essay e-grader: 21.0 Out of 30
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